Monday, February 28, 2011

#FinesseApproved Artist K'La

So, everyone knows that I was in the running to become Foxie 103's newest radio personality, correct? And we all know I got SNUBBED eliminated from that position, right? Yeah....That's neither here nor there....

ANYWHO during the said competition we were required to have some time on air with one of the personalities, Chillz. During my time in the studio, I heard a song who's beat reminded me of Bob Marley's "Turn Your Lights Down Low"...As I listened further I heard a female voice come on the track..."It's hard loving someone else...When you've barely got enough to love yourself......".
Just from the first sentence, I was hooked....I soon found out that the artist who sings and raps on this song is no other than the one and only Britanie "K'La" Buggs. I, being the curious individual that I am had to check her out on her mixtape "The Coldest Winter Ever"

An emcee, singer and songwriter all rapped up in one, I have yet to hear a track by K'La that hasn't impressed me! It's also refreshing to hear a female be so lyrical and not so much vulgar as REAL. Every one of her tracks content wise is something that ANYONE could relate to, and lyrically she paints a picture in such a way as I haven't heard in a while.

Here's K'La's song "All Your Love" off of her recent mixtape "Coldest Winter Ever". This is something you can just sit back and chill to, so ENJOY!

Keep an eye out for K'La!

#FinesseApproved Accessories

Searching through Necole Bitchie's website,, I ran across a SUPER cool new accessory....I will have these by this weekend....#lettheswaggerjackingbegin lol j/k...But forreal...remember I put you on! lol

Anywho...Here's the Video on how to do it!

Enjoy Looking Unique ;)

Sunday, February 27, 2011

B**** You IS My Girlfriend!!!! -#FinesseApprovedPhilosophies

I need everyone to close their eyes and picture the following scenario (or don't close your eyes...Because then you won't be able to read this....)

Females, you are in the club....You let a seemingly nice individual buy you drinks...
Fellas, you took a female to Waffle House after the club to get to know her better...

And NOW you are in a committed relationship (in their mind) because of it...It happens to the best of us....Oh, maybe it's just me.....

Laugh as you might, it happens on a lesser scale all the time! You are "talking" to someone (and by talking I mean dealing with someone really hard on a "relationship" level) and word gets back to you that you have a girlfriend....One that you didn't necessarily agree upon...

I'm sorry fellas...BUT.....If you are "talking" to someone and you can't tell them that you are sleeping with other people, and you can't tell THEM that you two are not exclusive....

B**** That IS your GF #kanyeshrug

The moral of the story is.....Watch your actions, because you MIGHT just be entering into a nonverbal contract.......And end up being someone's "significant other" without actually agreeing to it!

#FinesseApproved Fun..... the #LexPoint

Cheri Finesse Would Like To Introduce.....The #LexPoint

#LexPoint- (lĕks)\ˈpȯint\ v : The act of putting emphasis on certain words in a sentence by pointing in the manner of one, Lex A. Mayers. This manner includes using BOTH index fingers to point very strenuously while speaking to indicate the urgency or importance of various parts of a sentence.


Thursday, February 24, 2011

#FinesseApproved Philosophies on Love...... DATING/Courtship

Hello Sweeties!

It's been a LOOOOONG time since I have written, and I do apologize for that. Sometimes I just have these period when nothing inspires me to write (or nothing that I can openly speak on!)

*kat stacks voice* ANYWAY DOE, I had one of those days on FB when I just went ham on everything I thought about. You know how I do....I get one one subject, then max out my characters on one status so I write another one? Yeeeeah...

So I was thinking about how "Dating" or to be more specific, "Courtship" is a dying practice. (For those of you who are clueless as to the whole world of dating and courtship

Does anyone notice how even in music they went from



A lot of men don't ask me out on dates anymore honestly. Especially on FB, I get a lot of "Hey sexy...." and then they proceed to tell me how they would screw me... and I expect that being that I'm an eye candy model. But that doesn't mean I accept it. Even when I am fully clothed (in other words, just being my average, non sexual self) the best that men offer me at first is Waffle House or something janky like that. #Unacceptable. Men not only fail to try to impress women these days...but they throw a "bitchfit" if they have to pay! What is THAT about?

And I can't even blame it ALL on the men. Women, we have taken ourselves down off of that pedestal we once stood on. No, don't blame it on the strippers or video girls. Blame it on us woman as a whole. We do NOT have to accept a lot of the stuff that we do, but a lot of us are so scared to be alone (because our value is determined by whether or not we have a man) that we make little sacrifices here and there, but at WHAT expense? If we RAISE the bar, they have no choice but to reach up to come on our level. Don't make it easier than it has to be! Not saying we should "play games" just remember who you are and what you stand for, and NEVER compromise it. That makes things a lot easier. Hell, you can even start by refusing to go into a man's house. it's a tiny step, but think about the HUGE statement you are making by not making sex a possibility. There used to be a time when a young lady going over to a man's house unaccompanied was unheard of. While I think women should have say over what they do and do not do, I believe the PRINCIPLE behind it should be examined. When you refuse to go to his house or you refuse to invite him over, what message is that sending? To me it says "Sex isn't about to happen, not on your terms". You maintain control of the situation by maintaining control of the environment! Also, that cuts down on the confusion of having different men in and out of your house! lol

I often find myself having to set these men straight, both online and offline, and even then, the best date they can think of is "dinner and a movie".....There's no romance, no courtship and no chivalry.....Am I right, or am I wrong for NOT wanting to "buss it open" for a number 7 from Mickey D's and a dollar movie? What do y'all think?