Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Who's Hair? Setting the Record Straight (or curly)

"Hello, My name is Cheri, and I am an occasional weave wearer"


That being said, as you may or may not be able to tell, that's what this post is about. WEAVE. Sew Ins, Micros, Extensions, Fusions, *sharp intake of air* Tree Braids, Bonded, Half wigs, fullcaps, Lace fronts, Drawstring ponytails,Basket weave, Quick weave....Then there's human hair, synthetic, wefted, bulk, Remy, Non Remy....I could do this alll day.
There are a wide variety to choose from. And just as there's a wide variety of weave and ways to apply it, there's just as wide a variety of opinions about it. Some people LOVE it. Others detest it. A lot of people have no opinion at all.

Personally, I feel like it really is no one's business what a female (or male, if that's how you get down) chooses to put in her hair. While I do believe bad weaves should be BANNED, Truly, the decision comes down to the wearer of the weave about what SHE (or he) wants to do.
And for anyone to judge some one's CHARACTER based off of what they are wearing in their hair is JUST as shallow as the person who is judging claims the weave wearer to be.

Wearing weave isn't a question of whether or not the person is trying to be themselves. They are trying to make a better version of themselves. Or maybe not even a better version. Maybe they just want to experiment. I would like to point out that not all weaves make your hair appear longer. I could get a wig and walk around with the "Keri Hilson" cut. Or I can get a sew in weave and get the "Rihanna" bob. Sometimes it's not even about the length. I have been around many females with a great hair length that just want their hair to be thicker, or a different color, so they get a few tracks sewn in. BIG freakin' Whoop.

With me, variety is key. Who wants to wear the SAME hair style over and over *breathe intake* and over and over? Honestly, I don't. And I think I shouldn't be judged for it. I can understand that SOME females throw a curly half wig on and walk around pretending to be Puerto Rican, BUT really, is that ANY of your business? Yes, it is irritating seeing a girl who is obviously 100% Black try to pretend to be anything but, but it is NOT your business, nor mine!

Guys are ESPECIALLY bad about this. How many guys have you heard say this, or something along these lines: "I like my women REAL. No weave". But if you were to ask these VERY SAME males who would they sleep with/date/marry if they could choose anyone, they automatically jump up and say "Beyonce" or "Halle Berry". DO you see the contradiction? Beyonce is FAMOUS for wearing lacefronts, and how many times have you seen Halle, or ANY Hollywood female with short hair one moment and hair down to their back when you change the channel. COME ON SON! How many guys choose a female who clearly doesn't wear weave?.... None. Why? Because MOST men cannot tell a weave from natural hair. All they see is hair down to a female's waist and they start stalking. I doubt any straight male has paused to go:"Gee, I WONDER if that is a sew in using Remy hair?" If You have, Let ME know.

A female wearing weave is her decision. She is not less of a woman if she wears it. The same way a woman who colors her hair is not any LESS her if she changes her hair color. Or a guy is any less him if he cuts his hair. You weren't born blonde! You weren't meant to have short hair! So how dare you judge someone for wearing HAIR ACCESSORIES? Because, at the end of the day, they are just accessories that can be taken out and added at will. Less permanent than YOUR hair cut or YOUR color.

*steps down off soap box*...."That is all"

Love Always,
Cheri "Unbe-WEAVE-able" Finesse ;)

Sunday, January 24, 2010

The Stereotypes of a Model Part 1.

A few weeks ago, I came to my mom and told her I wanted to model. And I got the side eye. Then the hatemail on Formspring began to pile in with comments such as: "No one will ever respect you if you model". I have noticed ONE consistency whenever I hear about models, and that would be the stereotypes that any type of model has to deal with. From intellect, to lifestyle, to personality.While they vary from one genre of modeling to another, there are some consistencies over all the genres.
One stereotype that I commonly hear applied to all types of modeling is that models are somehow intellectually inferior to those who are not "the model type". I guess the logic follows that because they are considered "pretty" they automatically get what they want, and are not required to use their brain.
Another I hear a lot is the question of a models lifestyle. Sexually promiscuous, partying all the time, drug usage, you name it, they do it.
The last stereotype that I hear a lot is because they are SO beautiful, they MUST be bi***es.

Then there's the stigma that comes from each type of modeling, High Fashion and Urban to be exact.

For example, High fashion modeling: skinny white "B-words" who are strung out on coke, use eating disorders as a form of weight control, and are often bisexual and/or engage in frequent orgies.

Urban models often have to deal with the stigma of being (as one of my oh so loyal followers MR_9TA5_SPM pointed out)
Big booty bi***es that f*** their way to the top and often are called music video hoes and what not...Dudes will holla because you seem "easy".

(by the way, I would like to add that he finds these stereotypes misleading and disrespectful, so FOLLOW HIM)
I guess we can thank Superhead and songs like "Wouldn't Get Far" by Game for the perpetuating of these stereotypes.

For the record, I know people who are dumb as rocks and ugly, and STILL are good for a free f***! Likewise, I know some BEAUTIFUL smart women who do not sleep around.

But I guess at the end of the day, those who choose to go into modeling know these stereotypes, and have decided that the benefits outweigh the haters. It's funny that a society who looks at models as the physical idea of what you are supposed to be would think that these people are so f***ed up without having any prior knowledge of the individual. I guess it's just a way to balance things out. If you are pretty, you must be dumb, because you CAN'T have it all. If you are ugly, you HAVE to be smart, because you have to have something going for you. I've come to realize this: the people that talk down about models are USUALLY the ones who want to be them, or even be with them...Go figure.

My Very First Time (Posting, that is)

This is my first post, so i think that perhaps it would be appropriate to give you a little bit of background on me My name is Cheri Finesse. I am an aspiring Urban model. I have a manager who goes by Mogeezie, and he is the one who “discovered” me. I never really thought of myself as a model but hell, it’s 2010….Time to try something new. I completed my VERY FIRST photoshoot two Saturday's ago and honestly, I think it went well for a first timer! Here’s the link to the UStream recording of me and Mogeezie’s photoshoot: